Is What Is Real Subject To Change? Really?

My friend and I had a discussion. We talked about facing reality and the perceptions that cloud our judgments. It was easier to conclude about perceptions.

When I was a teenager and a young adult, I believed that I was charming and able to convince young girls to date. The reality was they were good friends and nothing more. That was easy to explain about perception.

Can reality change one’s world. I had come to the conclusion it does. My friend disagreed.

A kid, five years old, raised by two parents and loved unconditionally believed that both parents were going to be there till time comes to a halt. The reality changed when parents got divorced at age ten.

When my passport was stamped with permanent residency seal and when my immigration attorneys said that all I had to do was get registered and start practice in New Zealand, it sounded real. The fact was only western degree holders could qualify. What was supposed to be real was not real.

When my wife and I graduated from Residency in Psychiatry, and had our jobs signed, sealed and delivered but had to wait for a year to start work because of September 11, 2001 when the twin towers came down in NY and all with work permits were put on hold, what I believed to be real didn’t happen.

When your ass gets kicked so many times (not all I experienced has been told), you start to believe that nothing is definitely real. Ask those who have attained a state of Nirvana, they will tell you that you are not you!

What is real is what you have come to believe in the subconscious mind aided by a logical and an emotional component. It is subject to change when your belief system is proved to your own satisfaction that it is wrong. You hurry to change what you thought was real to avoid the consequences that is hard to digest. People once believed that the world was flat. The discoveries made by scientists and conclusions arrived at have changed.

When people tell you that maturity comes only when you don’t expose yourself in social media as you write about your life experiences, what is supposed to be real doesn’t even get appreciated. On the contrary, you are laughed at and ridiculed because their reality is different from yours.

My understanding is reality is subject to change.